Friends, Family, and Everyone In Between

It's time to start writing The Guest List.

This part is extremely difficult. I had to go through this about five times. First, my story:

When I first wrote the guest list, I had a little over a hundred people. That was because I wrote down every single person I could think of. I was okay with that. I just wasn't sure if my parents would be cool with it.

I showed it to my mother, and she told me that it was too much (shocker). Plus, the venue that we had reserved could only hold 80 people (I'll talk about the venue in the next post). So I obviously had to trim down the list.

I didn't think about the guest list for a while after learning that I had to start over. I figured that I had to really know who I'd want to invite, and I needed a clear mind.

I wrote another guest list after a few weeks. I was able to write a list of only 70 people. Perfect for the venue, and the budget.



So, how did I do it?

I first wrote down the people that were most important to me; those that made a huge impact on my life; the people that I'm close to now. (i.e. my super close friends from high school, those ates and kuyas that helped me through tough life problems, those ninongs and ninangs who were there from the moment I was born until now, church friends, etc.)

I know it's hard to not invite people to your special day. But don't think about who's going to be offended or get their feelings hurt. It's your day.

I had a hard time with this, too, because I have a massive circle of friends. But I learned to let go and do what I want. We have the right to celebrate with the people we want. So, it's really ok not to invite some people. (But don't forget to invite your family/relatives!)


After writing down those most important people in your life (we're talking about most here), I'm sure you've got lots of space left for those people who just shouldn't miss your debut. (i.e. your college friends, that seatmate that always helped you with math problems, that group of people who really knows how to party, etc.)


List away!


Remember: choose the people who you want to be there and to witness the day that you turn into a lady. Who are the people that you'd want to have around you as you step into adulthood?